Sex Educator... That's Like Sex Worker, Right?

Mr. Sex, of Todger Talk, writes:

The horrible paradox about being a sex writer, if you ask me, is that you automatically seem to get less of the sex that civilians have - the proper, affectionate, we're-doing-this-because-we're-into-each-other sex. If you're female, and writing about sex, you automatically seem to have to rule out 90% of any potential shag-partners that hove into view. It's easy to see why, in a sad, we're-in-the 21st-century-and we're-still-not over-this-shit way; half of us are intimidated as fuck, and the other half is terrified that our sexual technique is going to be analysed, held up, laughed at.

I still don't really get why this is true, but it is. Having been a sex educator and sex writer, I can affirm that it's true. All the nice men that I'm interested in seem to write me off the minute they find out I was once a sex educator.

This pisses me off to no end, because the truth is that if men had any clue what sex educator training is like (i.e., heavy on the confidentiality and sensitivity training), they'd come to the following realizations about female sex educators:

a) There's nothing in it that makes us sex connoisseurs. We are just as likely to be crap at sex as you are.
b) We are far more likely than the average woman to be considerate and forgiving of bedroom bloopers, and to take instruction gracefully when what we're doing isn't working for you. Cock not cooperating? We can handle it. Need a little more lube in that handjob? Just ask. Likewise, we tend to be pretty considerate of your feelings outside the bedroom.
c) We know the meaning of confidentiality. If you ask us to keep our mouths shut about something sex-related, you can trust that we actually do have that ability. I know at least one woman (not a sex educator) who cannot keep a secret, and it falls to her friends to keep her secrets secondhand—and you can guess how well that works. You do not have to worry about that kind of thing with a female sex educator.
d) We are more likely than the average woman to be willing to try something new, so long as we keep it safe. On the other hand, we are not kinky by definition. I am clearly an exception here, but most of the sex educators I know can talk frankly and easily about kink right before they go home to their strictly-vanilla relationships.
e) We are not skanks by definition. Men are still more likely to have had both more sex and more sex partners than we have.

Unfortunately an awful lot of men still think "undateable" when they hear "sex educator." My experiences have been so bad that I've stopped talking about it entirely around anyone I'm interested in dating.