KinkForAll

Okay, okay, so you've probably heard already, but I thought I'd cross-post the flyer here to help spread the word.

Unless I suddenly have a windfall (in this economy? yeah, I'm holding my breath for that) I will not be at the NYC event... alas. Some of the coolest kinky folk in the world are attending, and I won't get to hang out with them. I'm so jealous I could spit.

PLEASE COPY AND CROSSPOST THIS MESSAGE FREELY.

If you have already heard about KinkForAll through the grapevine, then please consider this email a reminder. If you haven’t, then please take a minute to scan this message. You’re receiving this message because someone trusts you to read it with an open mind. Smile! :)

Vitals
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What: A no-limits sex-positive gender and sexuality unconference.
Why: To inspire a creative, interactive and open environment where everyone feels comfortable talking, learning, and being inspired by all kinds of sexuality.
When: March, 2009 (exact date yet to be determined)
Where: NYC (We’re still looking for a venue! Can you help? See ‘Get Involved,’ below!)
Who: Everyone
How much: Free (as in beer as well as freedom)

Details
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KinkForAll is an ad-hoc gathering born from the desire for people of the kink, queer, sex-positive and related communities to share and learn in an open environment. It is an intense event with discussions, presentations, and interaction from all participants. (It is inspired by the BarCamp community.)

ANYONE WITH SOMETHING TO CONTRIBUTE OR WITH THE DESIRE TO LEARN IS WELCOME AND INVITED TO JOIN. When you attend, be prepared to share with others. When you leave, be prepared to share it with the world.

A KinkForAll is a special kind of gathering because there are no spectators, only participants. Attendees must give a talk or a presentation, help with one, or otherwise volunteer/contribute in some way to support the event. This is called sharing and we like it. All presentations are scheduled the day they happen—there are no pre-scheduled presentations or keynote addresses. The people present at the event will select the presentations they want to see.

Anyone can present, on any topic related to sexuality. You do not necessarily have to teach a new skill or idea. You might share an experience, review a product, or read a poem. The goal is to start a discussion, make connections, and exchange knowledge. Presentations promoting specific commercial products or companies are discouraged.

Learn more about what to expect at
http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/WhatToExpect

Learn more about the event guidelines at
http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/TheRulesOfKinkForAll

Get Involved
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We need your help in spreading the word. Please help by participating. Here’s how:

1. Get excited by reading the ideas on http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/KinkForAllNewYorkCity
2. Add your name or handle to the list of participants
3. Join the mailing list and introduce yourself by emailing kinkforall@googlegroups.com

If you have access to a venue, or know someone who has access to a venue, please email the kinkforall@googlegroups.com mailing list with that information.

Still have questions? Read the Frequently Asked Questions at
http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/FrequentlyAskedQuestions

or email kinkforall@googlegroups.com for more details.

KinkForAll Online
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Participate online before the event at your favorite social networking web site.

Homepage: http://KinkForAll.org
Google: http://groups.google.com/group/kinkforall
Twitter: http://twitter.com/KinkForAll
Identica: http://identi.ca/kinkforall
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pages/KinkForAll/40066342762

All primary organizational efforts are being coordinated via the mailing list. Join for free and help turn ideas into realities!
http://groups.google.com/group/kinkforall

I'll Take Questionable Definitions for $1000, Alex

Over at Axe's page, there's been some discussion on the subject of "cock milking"—specifically, what exactly it is.

I seem to be in the minority of commenters there who do not think that cock milking is more-or-less synonymous with prostate massage. Over there the consensus seems to be with Ang's definition: "Cock milking: the act of prostate massage when it results in ejaculate essentially oozing from the tip of the cock as if it were being milked." There's also the mainstream porn definition, which seems to be any hand job/blow job that leads to ejaculation on the part of the man. But neither of these quite ring true for me. I mean, cock milking in BDSM should be something that is in some way similar to the milking of a cow teat, so the first definition is in completely the wrong erogenous zone, and the second is just not demeaning and objectifying enough.*

*Okay, maybe that's my personal preferences talking.

The third option I've seen comes closest, and involves an actual milking machine with electrostimulation (search for hugh1109 on XTube if you really care to look) ... but that's such a rare practice that it seems silly to even bring it up. I mean, really—who would spend that much money on something that is so boring? It hardly even qualifies as porn, and certainly holds no interest for me whatsoever as a dominant woman.

And it's still not what I think of when I hear "cock milking."

What I think of is the process of getting a submissive off (yes, by hand) so many times that it stops feeling good and actually starts to hurt him ...and ideally he should beg for it to stop and he should feel it while walking for the next few days.

Is there a term for that?